Mother’s Day for all the to be moms out there…

This is a different kind of Mother’s Day post, because, although I am so very excited to spend the day with my family tomorrow, I very clearly remember a time when I wondered if a day like that would be in my future.
Mother’s Day can be a hard day for many, and that’s certainly the case for the 1 in 6 women who are currently struggling with infertility (WHO, 2023). And, although I have two beautiful children who are my whole world, Mothers Day used to be really hard for me.
And baby showers.
And my friends’ kids’ first birthday parties.
And every day that I took a negative pregnancy test and then had to wipe away my tears and go to work.
You get the picture. Infertility is hard, and it’s even harder to talk about. But, once I started to share my struggle with friends, I realized how many people I loved were also wiping away tears as they pulled up the yet another baby shower for someone they loved.
I won’t share my exact story with you or what did or didn’t work for me. Because all of our journeys are going to be so so different. But what remains the same is- you are not alone and your future is brighter than the present when you are in the thick of it.
What I’ll also share are some tools that made my journey easier:
🌸acupuncture. My journey with acupuncture started when I was getting ready for fertility care because of the evidence that it can really be helpful for people struggling with infertility. But, it has remained a part of my life because I have found that it is so valuable in managing my stress and protecting my energy any time that my body is struggling and even when it’s not.
🌸protecting my peace. For some time, staying off of social media more was imperative for me, as was exercising regularly, spending time with friends and spending impromptu weekends away with my husband hiking and relaxing (which, we haven’t been able to do much since having kids!)
🌸protecting my health. Cleaning up my diet started in my 20s, but I got very serious about limiting processed foods and dangerous additives during my fertility journey. Again- when I noticed how much better my body was designed to feel, this became a lifelong habit for me and I know I’m healthier because of it.
🌸seeking alternative help. Again, my challenges with fertility led me to do my own research and start looking for people, in addition to my medical team, who could help me with symptoms and root causes. A functional medicine doctor, pelvic floor therapist, acupuncturist, therapist, yoga or mindfulness teachers…all incredible partners in this or any other health journey we may encounter.
No matter how you feel this weekend, know that you are allowed to have those feelings, you deserve to protect your peace, and you will be ok.
❤️This picture below is one I took when rushing out the door to get my one year old son ready for our “mommy and me” music class one morning. I remember rushing around to pack the diaper bag and seeing his shoes waiting in the middle of the floor for us. I stopped in my tracks, took a deep breath and smiled so big at these adorable tiny shoes, remembering so clearly how I longed to hold little shoes like that in my hand for so many years. So have faith, friends, and imagine all the beauty your future has in store for you ❤️

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